Smart Single Parents Speak #2: Set A Good Example

#2 Set A Good Example

Nothing teaches children better than a good example. A good example is is something that measures the consistency of the parent.

Here is what I mean: Parents usually give good advice. Their words of wisdom flow and take on feel of truth and sense. When the parent does, in his or her life, the very things that he or she says for the child to do, their is the power of consistency behind their words.

When direction communication (words) and indirect communication (actions) are parallel, the message is very strong. When there is this sense of parallel communication, the influence of the parent is more likely to bein the desired direction. Conversely, if direct communication (words) and the indirect communication (actions) are not parallel, there is a much lower chance of getting the desired result.

Non-parallel communication is likely to produce non-parallel communication in the child. This comes out in the form of lying, deception, say-one-thing-do-another behavior - the very thing we're trying to avoid.

Now, there are some things an adult can do that a child should not. However, it is important not to abuse that reality. It is going to be unconvincing to the child to say, "Don't drink, smoke and have sex," if the parent happens to be doing those things.

Live your life as a con sistent person and you will reap the rewards in your children.